After a whirlwind trip to Minnesota in July, August proved to be just as busy back in Oregon. It slid right into September, and here we are, 8 days in already!
We had a great 3+ weeks visiting family and friends in Winona. If all goes as I hope with this surrogacy journey, I'll be pregnant next summer and won't be making the trip back, so I wanted to squeeze every last bit of Winona joy that I could out of those 24 days. It was a tightly packed schedule, but totally worth it. Plenty of Rocco's Pizza (although, one can never really have enough, you know?) and lots of time with important people in our lives. Brad made the drive with the dogs; luckily Pippa is a great helper...
August was a rollercoaster of a month when it came to foster care. Back in June we met two boys, ages 7 and 8, who were staying at a temporary foster home. The plan was made that we would fly back from MN on Friday and they would come and stay with us long term beginning on Saturday. Knowing that time was going to be tight, we did some preparing for their stay before we left - we moved our two boys into the same bedroom so that the brothers could be together in the other room, purchased a bunk bed, and got everything ready. Just before they came to stay with us, however, we learned of a change. The family that was keeping them "temporarily" had decided to keep them there long term. While this was sad news for us (we had really enjoyed meeting them and thought they'd do well in our house) we were so happy for the boys. Stability is SO important! They deserved to stay put in a good home, and one less transition is a great thing. Back on the call list we went...
Next up, a call to take one year old twins. We got the house ready, because with our littlest being 5 the house isn't exactly baby-proof. We borrowed a pack 'n play from a friend, got everything prepared, and we waited for the kids to get dropped off. And we waited. And we waited. And finally we went to sleep. The next morning I contacted DHS, and it turns out the kids were not removed from the house after all, and an in-home plan was made instead. In a situation like that you just hope for the best for those kiddos... and you ask that communication from DHS be a little better next time around.
So, next time around. We made plans to take in a one year old boy and his almost two year old sister long term. This plan was made on Friday, with them coming to stay with us on Monday. Over the weekend we bought a pack 'n play so we wouldn't have to borrow one long term, and got some other assorted toddler items (booster chair for the dining room, baby gates, door knob anti-opener thingys, etc). The kids were dropped off at 3:30 on Monday afternoon. We were playing and getting to know each other, when I received a call at 5:00 that they would be getting picked up at 5:30! What?! Apparently the decision had just been made in court to do an in-home plan with these kiddos, so they were going home.
After three failed placements, I was feeling a little disappointed. The hard part was that our three kids were very excited for each of the placements, only to be let down before they really happened. The abrupt departure of the last duo gave me a chance to think things through, and I decided that for the time being we're only going to take a single placement, not a sibling set. I will be starting the fertility medications soon, and I just have no idea what to expect or how I'll be feeling. It seems like these three placements not working out was a good time to scale back and make sure we're not taking on too much. So, now we are back on the list, waiting for a call when one child needs a home!
That leads me to the surrogacy update! Not too much going on there, actually, but a couple of tidbits. I am currently waiting for the fertility clinic (Oregon Reproductive Medicine) to email me my medication calendar and schedule. I was previously told I'd likely be starting meds in late September or early October, and that I would receive my calendar in September. So far nothing, but you better believe a planner like me is checking my email frequently, waiting for that message to pop in!
A little fun fact about my IF's (intended fathers) -- they've actually been through the surrogacy process before! Twice, actually. They have two adorable little boys that were both delivered by the same surrogate. They decided that they wanted to add one more to their family, but their surrogate was done being pregnant, so that's when the agency found me. Initially when I began this process I had envisioned helping a couple/individual reach their dream of starting a family; instead, I will be helping them complete their family. I actually think this is really cool! Having Finnegan, our baby #3, is what inspired me to pursue surrogacy, and now I will be helping them have baby #3! Plus this is a gift of not only a child, but also a sibling. I love my sister with all my heart, and I just love the fact that I will (hopefully) be giving these boys a brother or sister!
So today I got to meet their first surrogate! She and I went out for coffee at a cute little place nearby, and it was absolutely fantastic to hear about her experiences firsthand. I haven't really ever talked with anyone who has been a surrogate, so it was great to spend time with her. My agency has monthly surrogate meet-ups and I haven't been able to make it to any of them for one reason or another, but I'm going to try to make it to the next one! It's really nice to connect with people who are in the same boat as you. I loved meeting with her today, and it makes me feel even more connected to my IF's!
Hope you are all having a wonderful weekend filled with things that bring you joy!